How can being more grateful benefit you?
- it brings you HAPPINESS, despite your circumstances
- boosts feelings of optimism, joy, pleasure, enthusiasm and others
- reduces anxiety and depression (clinical studies prove this)
- helps you to reach more goals
- encourages deeper sleep, more energy and improved health
- allows us to see outside ourselves and support others
- increases our likability
- more intense and passionate love life
I will put a personal spin on this! I believe that I have always appreciated the life I have, and the goodness and love and benefits I was provided throughout childhood, my youth and early adulthood. However, it wasn’t until I was presented with more evident struggles, that I really became familiar with the benefits of gratitude, and how gratitude alone can keep your head above water some days.
My late husband fought the demons of severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, which progressed to Borderline Personality Disorder before he took his own life; and although he loved our daughters and I, those demons affected all of us.
Our youngest daughter, internationally adopted at age 3, also fights her own demons. She suffers from severe mental illness as well, due to horrific early childhood trauma. She has psychopathic/sociopathic tendencies, Reactive Attachment Disorder and Complex PTSD.
To say our household was stressful for many years, is an understatement.
Gratitude, which I encourage in our girls as well, provided resilience, happiness for us and a sense of stability that could not have existed otherwise. It benefited us, particularly myself, as I was old enough to understand it, emotionally/socially/physically.
Emotionally, it allowed me to be more resilient, more relaxed, hold onto happy memories, have more positive feelings than negative ones.
Socially, it made me less self-centered, less materialistic, more optimistic, increased my self-esteem, helped me to achieve goals, be kinder, strengthened relationships, promoted forgiveness, made me more helpful, altruistic, compassionate and empathetic, .
Physically, I had increased energy, I was more motivated to exercise, had improved sleep, and was less sick. Gratitude studies have shown that it strengthens the immune system, lowers the blood pressure, reduces symptoms of illness,…
What does Krista mean by gratitude??? Is this what you are asking right now?
How can this word, gratitude, provide stability in the midst of a storm?
How can it provide all of these benefits and so much more?
Gratitude is simply appreciating the little things (and sometimes the big things)! It is not looking for extraordinary things and celebrating grand events, holidays, vacations, parties, accomplishments and trying to hold onto those memories.
Brene Brown said it best,
“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”
What are some of the little things we can be grateful for?
- a smell
- a colour
- the ocean waves crashing on the shore
- a childs laugh
- your favourite meal or dessert
- time with a friend or loved one
- time for your favourite activity
- a smile from a stranger
- a beautiful bird flying by
- food in your fridge
- your home
- your family
What if you noticed things like these, 3 times a day?
Really noticed them…
Now 10 times a day?
Breathe them in…
Now 25 times a day?
They always bring a spark of joy to you…
“Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot”
Recognize that there is joy everywhere and do not allow pain and adversity to overshadow it.
What if you always stopped to pet that dog, smell that flower, listen to your favourite song? What if you always did that, for you? Would you not feel happier and more resilient to the things that are not as appealing?
I don’t know the things that make you happy… Think about them. Really think… even make a list if that helps to get you started.
I, personally love dogs, textures, food smells, food, coffee, kids, babies, people, laughing, smiling, bright colours, oceans, sunshine, turtles, all animals (except jungle cats, I’m not a huge fan as they prey on some of my favourite animals), artwork, architecture, books, I could go on and on.
I always try to take the time to appreciate my passions, the things that make me happy, and to be grateful for them.
Now, consider this… being grateful doesn’t just benefit you.
If you stop to pet a dog, interact playfully with a baby, smile at a stranger, appreciate an artists’ piece of art… you are also filling their bucket with gratitude and thus joy and happiness.
The benefits of gratitude are simply endless!
Grateful for my walk, hand-in-hand with my true love along the ocean today,