Aligning Your Goals and Values

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Goals, behaviours, values. Have you ever wondered how to link these things together so that what you say and what you do are in alignment?

If these things are out of alignment it’s likely obvious to you (or maybe not). As discussed in one of our recent blogs, goals and values tie in to Resilience. When our behaviour towards our goals aligns with our values, then bouncing back from life’s setbacks feels easier and more natural for us.

Let’s see how all of these things important concepts are linked….

Values

Values are like a built-in GPS that guides us in the direction of what truly matters. Values help guide daily actions and decisions. It’s a chosen life path with regard to relationships, personal growth, leisure, etc. For example, a value could be a love for travelling, or being a good mother or father.

A value is something that is meaningful to you, regardless of what’s meaningful to friends and family. It’s individual; however, many of our values tend to align with social values. One example of this alignment is kindness. One of your guiding values may be kindness, but we all know that not everyone finds kindness as one of their guiding values. That’s unfortunate (more on the importance of kindness in a future blog…stay tuned!).

So what if it feels like things are getting in the way of living your values? You’ll need to identify and overcome those things that get in the way. This is an important step, otherwise it may feel like there is constant internal conflict.

Even minor adjustments in behaviors can help steer us towards our overarching values. For example, if one of your values relates to health and wellness yet you continue to eat badly and get little if any exercise, then an internal conflict will likely surface. A minor adjustment will be required (i.e. a little more sleep or exercise).

Goals

g67599oalValues are your guiding direction, whereas goals are the achievements you set along the way towards the values. For example, if one of your values relates to travel, you could make a goal to go to Australia or the Bahamas – sounds good to me! One behaviour towards this goal may relate to how you spend money. Is it being spent in pursuit of the goal or is it being spent frivolously?

Another example is having a value related to life-long learning. A goal may be to finish a course, or pursue a certificate or degree. Ultimately, goals are informed by our values.

Stress is an important piece that weighs in on living our values. Part of being and living consistent with ones values is to clarify your values, be firmly aware of what they are, know which behaviors enable you to live consistent with these values, and then staying committed to them – despite experiencing stress and unwanted thoughts or experiences. These are the things that will take us off-course or out of alignment and cause us to live inconsistent with our values. For more info on this check out our blog on Changing Your Reaction to Stressful Thoughts.

It’s important to perform periodic check-ins to ensure our behaviours are consistent with our goals and values. If these are out of alignment then it’s time to sit back and re-think and re-adjust. Then commit to trying again. If you need to re-align again that’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Keep at it until your goals and behaviours align again with your values.

Australian psychologist Russ Harris said this about commitment:

Commitment isn’t about being perfect, always following through, or never going astray. Commitment means that when you inevitably stumble or get off track, you pick yourself up, find your bearings, and carry on in the most meaningful direction possible.

Living a life where your goals, behaviours, and values are in alignment is an important step to living your bestlife!

-Kevin

Your Attitude is Contagious

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Attitude is contagious, is yours worth catching? Consider this – your attitude towards anything can work with you towards your goals and dreams, and can lead you to accomplish things you didn’t think were possible. OR conversely, your attitude can work against you and limit your potential, which keeps you in a spiral of negative attitude.

It’s also contagious in that your attitude affects others – whether it’s family, friends, or co-workers. If your positive attitude today makes one person smile then isn’t it worth it? I think so. Remember that you may only be one person to the world, but to one person you may be the world.

So which one do you choose? Yes, it is a choice! If you want to live your best life, it’s an easy choice. Choose a positive attitude.

-Kevin

Embrace the Day!


Life can present you with many rewarding experiences and many challenges.

Expect the unexpected, there will be challenges along the way. It’s how you respond to life’s challenges that matters.

You can’t control the curveballs being thrown at you, you can however, control how you react to them. So, make sure you move out of the way as quickly as possible, so that curveball doesn’t knock you down!

Be sure to allow yourself the freedom to experience an array of appropriate emotions for each life experience.  These are all encompassing moments that change, mold and challenge us as individuals.

Happiness is dependent on expression of all emotions.

When life throws you a curve ball, what are some of the ways you cope?

Embrace the Day!

Embrace Life!

-Krista

Take Moments to Enjoy the Journey

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A simple reminder that we should take moments in our lives to experience joy, wonder, and “awe” along this journey called Life! Take a moment from what your mind perceives as the seriousness of life, and look up at the sky, or at anything in nature; really anything that puts you in a state of wonder or awe. Also, let’s remind each other how amazing life is, because we are all in this together. Joy, wonder, and awe are simple tools we can use to Embrace Life within ourselves, and outwardly with those around us. Eckhart Tolle said:

“Life isn’t as serious as the mind makes it out to be”.

Kevin

Embracing Life Every Day

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As I sit here having breakfast in southern Texas, y’all, I look out of a restaurant window and can see snippets of the ocean. As wonderful as this is, you know what I found more exciting? You guessed it – one of my fave songs from the 80’s (I have many) appeared on the radio station – Heaven by Warrant. Isn’t it interesting and wonderful how joyous moments can appear anywhere you are? We’ll get back to this thought in a moment.

As human beings we have the ability to make a conscious choice to embrace life. It’s almost magical how fear, anxiety, anger, etc seem to diminish when you are “in  the moment”. Now, embracing life can mean different things to different people. I don’t suspect hearing Warrant on the radio is an absolute joy for many of you as it is for me and I’m ok with that. I’m me and you’re you. More on this shortly.

Embracing life is really about showing up for life, accepting life as it is (suspending your judgment), learning from your mistakes, and then making better choices every day because you learned from your mistakes…right!?!

Keep in mind that better hourly and daily choices often involve:

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  • taking a few deep breaths
  • taking the “high road” whenever life challenges you
  • and most importantly accepting who you are! You are beautiful…YES YOU!

Embracing life has many different facets. This blog has covers several different areas of life that we will fully explore in the near future. Krista and I plan on taking you along on a wonderful journey as we explore and hack life. Please stay tuned for more exciting content!

If you have anything to add to this or any general questions on embracing life we would love to hear from you. We are all in this together.

Embracing life as best I can,

Kevin

 

 

You aren’t lost…

 

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Life isn’t about finding yourself.

Life is about creating yourself.

-George Bernard Shaw

You can stop searching, you aren’t lost!

Start to look within, to reach your goals and realize your dreams!

You have everything you need to create the life you dream of.