Sometimes, you may hear about stay-at-home moms and business owners as if they cannot be the same person. As a mom, you already know how to balance several full-time jobs. Entrepreneurship provides you with the opportunity to learn to balance one more.
Find Your Calling Following your passion takes strength, tenacity, and confidence. If you struggle with self-esteem, use affirmations to build your confidence. Remind yourself of your potential and take action. You have to expose yourself to the world if you want to be recognized for your talents.
● Web designer ● Social media consultant ● Wedding coordinator ● Personal stylist
Your skills, education, and expertise will lend to your business startup ideas.
Build Your Business To decide your business’s structure, you need to analyze your goals and the federal, state, and local regulations. (Note: In Canada, you will need to look at provincial and federal regulations. -Krista Hill) ● Sole proprietorship: In a sole proprietorship, you are the only person responsible for your company’s debts and profits. You and your business are the same entity, so you also have a personal liability stake with the least amount of paperwork. ● Limited liability company: An LLC is a hybrid structure that allows you, your partners, or shareholders to limit personal liability. Under an LLC, you have liability protection, but your earnings can still pass through you as income on your personal tax return. ● Partnership: If you share ownership of your business with one or more people, then you may consider a partnership. In a general partnership, ownership is equal. However, in a limited partnership, only one partner has control. ● Corporation: Corporations are separate from their owners. Corporations can file lawsuits, own property, and face liability claims. Corporation fees vary by state and by type of corporation. ● Cooperative: In a co-op structure, company members are user-owners. The members of the organization vote on the mission, direction and share the company profits.
For startup companies, LLC is one of the most beneficial structures. You have control over your location, asset protection and you avoid double taxation.
Juggle Your Passions The role of a mom and the role of an entrepreneur are demanding. To juggle the two, you need to brush up on your time management skills. Plan every day and continue the routine into the weekend. This allows you to distribute your time to all of your necessary tasks. Be easy on yourself. You may be unable to tackle all of your chores in one day while balancing business meetings and playtime with your kids. Mom guilt can impair your productivity, so try to let it go. You are working on your family’s future.
One crucial part of your early-stage checklist: payroll. You should, in fact, create your payroll system before you have employees. Start your payroll by getting an Employer Identification Number. Some local governments also require you to obtain ID numbers for taxes. Having a payroll system in place helps streamline your business responsibilities. To set up payroll, you need to determine your payment schedule and withholdings. You can utilize software to help streamline the process further. Features like direct deposit, tax filing, time tracking, and more are also must-haves.
Balancing your obligations to your family before owning a business is an impressive feat, but it is possible to balance entrepreneurial goals on top of those. When you run a business from your home, you have the flexibility to earn an income and care for your children. Let Krista help you realize your goals and guide you on the path to success.
Cheryl Conklin takes writing and tutoring seriously. From her travels and experiences, Wellness Central was born with the goal of instilling the mindset of physical and mental wellbeing to various audiences. She only wishes to be able to share her many inspirations from her escapades.
What is YOUR “inner strength”? Do you know? Have you spent much time thinking about it?
Right now are you thinking of your positive qualities: I am kind, giving, a good listener, generous… ? These are all wonderful! However… these are ‘strengths’ that you use to enhance relationships with others, to support others when they are in need. But what strengths do you use to support yourself in times of unpredictability, uncertainty and hardship? What ‘inner strengths’ do you call upon when you feel off balance, insecure, don’t know what to expect or what to do next?
If you knew that your inner strength(s) could increase your confidence if you were more aware of them, would you want to know what they are? I WOULD!
Who couldn’t use a little more confidence in their life? A little more: courage, assurance, tenacity, fearlessness, daring and grit?
Most of us have endured struggles that have left our confidence levels depleted, left us feeling broken. These hardships may have been:
dealing with grief
and many more
Where do we find the strength to rebuild, and increase our confidence, our self-esteem, once the pieces of our life begin to fit together again?
Our INNER STRENGTH comes from the totality of our experiences – both the positive and the difficult must be embraced. Our struggles develop our inner strengths just as powerfully as our accomplishments, greatest moments, and sometimes even more so. We can find our strength within ourselves if we know it is there, and where to look. You have to let the fire inside you burn brighter than the fire around you and you will find your inner strength.
This calls for vulnerability and none of us seem to like that word! Being vulnerable means we are opening ourselves up to the possibility of being hurt, so to be vulnerable ‘feels’ weak. But this is where we are wrong, ladies!
Vulnerability is not weakness. Vulnerability requires strength and courage. Vulnerability is where change happens!
You have endured struggles over which you had NO control. Why not ‘choose’ to be vulnerable and show up for yourself, be IN control as you confront your fears and say, “NO MORE!” It doesn’t have to be comfortable in the moment, but with this courage, you will find your “inner strength” and from there, your “confidence” will flourish!
Don’t let your struggles be your side hustles, always fighting with yourself to determine your own self-worth.
What’s your story? It’s time to get inside it, and own it, girl! Are you ready to be IN control, be courageous and vulnerable, confront your fears and watch your confidence grow? (This is where you yell, “HELL, YA!”) Let’s take the first step toward finding our inner strengths. We are going to kick our fears’ ass together! Let’s do this!
*Update: I was contacted by Verywell Mind on April 1, 2020, in reference to this article I wrote on inner strength. I was asked to share Amy Morin’s podcast on this subject to expand the reach of the new Verywell Mind Podcast on Spotify. Please have a listen and follow their podcasts.
57 – Friday Fix: How to Find Inner Strength When You Need It the Most – The Verywell Mind Podcast with Amy Morin | Podcast on Spotify
What is FEAR and how can fear diminish our confidence? There are many types of fear that limit us day-to-day, some of them we don’t recognize, or choose not to recognize in ourselves (because why the heck would we want to be vulnerable and do that, am I right?):
fear of judgment
fear of failure
fear of rejection
more specifically the fear of public speaking
Do any of these fears resonate with you? Do you see any of these in yourself?
Outstanding influencers have voiced their thoughts about what fear is, the limitations fear places on us, and the results of these limitations.
Nelson Mandela declared:
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
Let’s look at the fear of judgment as an example. Fear of judgment has dramatically increased rates of social anxiety, led to a shocking number of women who avoid the gym or running in public, has had a paralyzing effect on many talented women (and men) who will not action their purpose/business/life goal or embrace their potential for fear of criticism, and has also led to increased debt ratios due to a “keep up with the Jones'” mentality. Perhaps you are affected by the fear of judgment in one of these ways or in another way.
Try these four strategies if you recognize the fear of judgment as limiting you:
Do you have the courage to say, “I am enough”? To holler it from the hilltops, “I AMMMM ENOOOUUUGGHH!” To write this affirmation on your mirror, make it your screen saver, place sticky notes around your home that you will see, set pop-up reminders on your phone.
Can you let your judgment go? Just catch yourself mid-judgment, and bravely intervene. Recognize your judgmental thought, your judgmental mindset, and choose to let it go. “I would so go to the gym if my ass wasn’t so…” AH! Caught you! Good-bye!
You think finding your inner strength might be a challenge, how about owning your inner critic? Bring – it – on! Your inner critic has you doubting yourself, questioning your self-worth, comparing yourself to others.
Guess what? No matter what you do or where you go, people will judge you. FACT! But, guess what else? Those who judge others are too busy judging others and doing nothing themselves out of fear. So why do you care what the critics have to say? Are you going to let them be your reason for not being vulnerable, courageous, daring, fucking awesome and living a life with meaning and purpose? (This is where you yell, “HELL NO!”)
Be like Nelson Mandela! That man was the real deal! He had tenacity and grit! He was fearless! He showed courage and triumphed over fear despite being afraid! You can too!
That is some daring shit! But… keep in mind:
“The fears we don’t face become our limits.” – Robin Sharma
If we allow FEAR to control us, and we do not have the courage to contain our fear – we allow it to limit us, our dreams, and our potential. We do not feel we are good enough. Do you see how fear can paralyze us? How the fears we choose not to face can become our greatest limits and defeat us?
Fear of failure is a fear many choose to never face, not only because confronting fears is undesirable but because most of us see failure as a huge negative – it is a big, bad direct reflection of our skills, value, worthiness and potential. Yuck! Unfortunately, by not staring the fear of failure straight in its ugly face, we are allowing it to control us, and keep us from progressing in life and from fulfilling our dreams.
Fear kills hope. It can hold you back from something you know you are capable of doing. Fear will paralyze you! But… what if we can change your perception of failure so that you embrace it, rather than fear it? Whoa… this is some daring shit right here!
Fear has us believe we are losers if we fail. Even successful people fail (Einstein, the lightbulb, blah blah blah, you’ve heard it a million times) The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is: successful people overcome fear, take further risks, and learn from their mistakes. They continue to grow, and you can too. You are not alone in your experience of fear of failure or your experience of failure.
You cannot predict the future. You cannot control the future. Don’t let the unpredictable stop you from trying. What if I fail? But… What if I succeed?
Failure leads to expertise! Have you ever wanted to be an expert at something? The best of the best? Instead of fearing failure, view potential failure as an opportunity to become an expert. Try one way, it doesn’t work? Try another way. It doesn’t work? Try two hundred other ways! Stop fearing it! Get out there and kick some ass!
“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”
– Les Brown
“Fear kills more dreams than failure ever will.”
Have the courage to be vulnerable and act on fear if you want to begin to find and build your inner strength so that you can increase your confidence!
If it were easy – everyone would do it! You have the courage! Be fearless, be daring, define your own path and choose you, girl!
Check out one of my favorite videos about overcoming fear.
You know all those things you’ve always wanted to do? You should go do them, or as NIKE says “Just do it”! But what if it seems like there is some unseen or unknown force just simply stopping you? You know it’s there but you can’t see it or put your finger on it. It’s a perceived barrier or a wall that you believe is unbreakable.
These barriers all have to do with our thoughts and emotions. Have you ever heard the quote:
“Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right” – Henry Ford.
This relates to positive thinking. Pay attention to negative thoughts or what you vocalize such as:
It’s too hard
It’ll never happen, etc, etc…
Are these based on reality? How do you know? Try this – take a deep breath by inhaling and exhaling slowly and deeply a few times, ground yourself, dig deep, and consider what thoughts are causing the lack of forward movement in your life. Contemplate these thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts:
This WILL happen…
Let’s face it, you really need to break through that wall or step over that barrier. Consider how badly you want to achieve your goals.
As Tony Robbins says “take massive action toward your goals”.
Perhaps you might consider some minor short term pain for long term gain? Take the first step and then repeat. Repeat again. Soon enough you’ll realize that it’s amazing what you will find on the other side.
Remember that a life coach or a trusted family member or friend can help you start, keep on track, and achieve your goals. So let’s get you on your way to:
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If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
Is your mind caught up in negative thought patterns?
Life satisfaction begins with a positive mindset.
If you believe you are pathetic, guess what…
If you believe you will fail, you are destined to.
If you believe you are powerful, you are!
If you believe you will succeed, you can!
Mindset is a way of thinking, based on a set of beliefs, that determines one’s behaviour, outlook and mental attitude.
Your mind is a powerful tool, fill it with positive thoughts and your life will start to change positively.
Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by CHANGE.
What do you want? What do you truly want your everyday “normal” to be? Really think about it.
Maybe you want to start working out each morning before the kids wake up, and feel energized.
Or you have a weight loss plan you are considering;
How about an education or career plan that you have been thinking about? Put it into action!
Are you thinking you would like to travel more?
Or do you and your partner want to spend more quality time together?
It is not an unreachable dream… a future plan. Part of creating your “normal” for today is picturing it as a natural part of your everyday life now. Visualize it, and master the art of living it now. Be the energy you want to attract. Begin to live it, create your “normal”, your new reality.
Right now some of you are saying:
“Ya but, my life has been so hard.”
“My circumstances don’t allow for the changes I want to make.”
“You don’t know what I’ve been through.”
I, like you, have endured some struggles.
In the past 5 years, I have been widowed in my late 30’s, after 13 years of marriage (suicide as a result of PTSD); lost my dad to cancer; battled for my own life twice with two ruptured ectopics, and suffered the loss of those pregnancies; coped with the effects of our adopted daughter’s mental illness and the associated loss; and am currently dealing with the neurological illness that my thriving 14 year old has suddenly developed and is now affecting her athletic and academic performance; I have had to change careers; and more… My struggles will not be the same as yours, and can’t be compared. But we all have struggles. It is how we choose to let them affect us.
Make the choice to change your perspective and embrace today with positivity, despite the challenges and stumbling blocks, and always be grateful for the little things (a sunset, a puppy licking you, a baby trying to walk, a horse running through a field, the majestic mountains in the distance, a cup of coffee, a smile from a stranger…).
My life would not be as happy, fulfilled and wonderful as it is without gratitude and a shift to a positive mindset.
A positive mindset, gratitude, alwaysremember that everyonehas struggles, and it is how they choose to deal with them, that can create positive change; this is how I have achieved my goals, and chosen to live the life I am living.
Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.
-George Bernard Shaw
What choices do you need to make to create this “normal”?
What actions do you need to take?
Define your goal(s)
Change your beliefs – from negative thought patterns to positive thought patterns; “I am worthy of this”; “I am deserving”; “there is time”; etc
Think positive thoughts – “I can do this!”
Identify fears and potential obstacles – “I will not succeed”; “I have failed in the past”; “I will not have the support of others”; “I do not believe in myself”; “I cannot stick with anything”; etc
Practice gratitude – be grateful for what you do have, and each step that you do accomplish toward achieving your goal and shifting your mindset
To achieve goals and live the life you want to live, you don’t need superhuman strength, or the ability to time travel or wall crawl like Spiderman. All you need is tochange your mind. Sounds pretty simple really, doesn’t it?
Goals, behaviours, values. Have you ever wondered how to link these things together so that what you say and what you do are in alignment?
If these things are out of alignment it’s likely obvious to you (or maybe not). As discussed in one of our recent blogs, goals and values tie in to Resilience. When our behaviour towards our goals aligns with our values, then bouncing back from life’s setbacks feels easier and more natural for us.
Let’s see how all of these things important concepts are linked….
Values are like a built-in GPS that guides us in the direction of what truly matters. Values help guide daily actions and decisions. It’s a chosen life path with regard to relationships, personal growth, leisure, etc. For example, a value could be a love for travelling, or being a good mother or father.
A value is something that is meaningful to you, regardless of what’s meaningful to friends and family. It’s individual; however, many of our values tend to align with social values. One example of this alignment is kindness. One of your guiding values may be kindness, but we all know that not everyone finds kindness as one of their guiding values. That’s unfortunate (more on the importance of kindness in a future blog…stay tuned!).
So what if it feels like things are getting in the way of living your values? You’ll need to identify and overcome those things that get in the way. This is an important step, otherwise it may feel like there is constant internal conflict.
Even minor adjustments in behaviors can help steer us towards our overarching values. For example, if one of your values relates to health and wellness yet you continue to eat badly and get little if any exercise, then an internal conflict will likely surface. A minor adjustment will be required (i.e. a little more sleep or exercise).
Values are your guiding direction, whereas goals are the achievements you set along the way towards the values. For example, if one of your values relates to travel, you could make a goal to go to Australia or the Bahamas – sounds good to me! One behaviour towards this goal may relate to how you spend money. Is it being spent in pursuit of the goal or is it being spent frivolously?
Another example is having a value related to life-long learning. A goal may be to finish a course, or pursue a certificate or degree. Ultimately, goals are informed by our values.
Stress is an important piece that weighs in on living our values. Part of being and living consistent with ones values is to clarify your values, be firmly aware of what they are, know which behaviors enable you to live consistent with these values, and then staying committed to them – despite experiencing stress and unwanted thoughts or experiences. These are the things that will take us off-course or out of alignment and cause us to live inconsistent with our values. For more info on this check out our blog on Changing Your Reaction to Stressful Thoughts.
It’s important to perform periodic check-ins to ensure our behaviours are consistent with our goals and values. If these are out of alignment then it’s time to sit back and re-think and re-adjust. Then commit to trying again. If you need to re-align again that’s ok. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Keep at it until your goals and behaviours align again with your values.
Australian psychologist Russ Harris said this about commitment:
Commitment isn’t about being perfect, always following through, or never going astray. Commitment means that when you inevitably stumble or get off track, you pick yourself up, find your bearings, and carry on in the most meaningful direction possible.
Living a life where your goals, behaviours, and values are in alignment is an important step to living your bestlife!
If you lost everything tomorrow would you be able to bounce back? Do you have the skills or talent, the strength or determination to turn failure into success? In spite of obstacles and setbacks, are you willing to keep going…to keep doing…to not give up? All of this relates to resilience.
Let’s start with this example – why is it that a child who grows up in an extremely adverse circumstance may end up doing well in life, whereas a child who grows up in a well-to-do family may end up doing so poorly in life?
It comes down to the fact that there are two basic elements to resilience – surviving and thriving in life. So what does this mean exactly? Another way to consider resilience is that it’s the ability to survive, or the ability to bounce back in life from tough situations. And then, thriving is about the ability to do what matters most in life, and optimizing well-being.
Fall seven times, stand up eight – Japanese Proverb
So where does resilience come from? Is it genetic? Well, here’s some great news – resilience can be acquired! Anne Masten from the University of Minnesota is one of the foremost experts in resilience and her research has shown that resilience can actually be acquired. Acquiring resilience happens by having a general awareness of resilience, engaging in intentional practices, being open to learning, and applying and integrating good lifestyle habits and routines.
Here are six ways you can practice resilience and in essence get the most out of life…
Practicing mindfulness. Mindfulness includes actions such as meditation, mindful breathing, and bringing your awareness to the present moment. These things can help you achieve mental clarity and lower life stressors. One study on the link between mindfulness and resilience in the Journal of Personality and Individual Differences found that “Mindful people … can better cope with difficult thoughts and emotions without becoming overwhelmed or shutting down.” Pausing and observing the mind may help us get un-stuck in our story (thoughts) and as a result empower us to move forward.
Ensuring your goals are in line with your overall values (more on this important concept in a future blog…stay tuned!).
Managing negative emotions. Negative emotions narrow attention and behaviour. While emotions are generally a positive thing (some anxiety, anger, happiness is good); emotions can become overly negative when they start to impair – panic, violence, and mania for example. This is where rational and logical thinking get tossed out the window.
Cultivating positive emotions. This is all about paying attention to positive emotions such as joy, serenity, hope, love, etc. Why is this important? First of all, this is essential to building resilience. Also, cultivating positive emotions can help to undo the after-effects of negative emotions. Positive emotions tend to broaden attention and behaviour. Because paying more attention to positive emotions helps you to bounce back from adversity, helps you cope better with stressful situations, and generally creates a more satisfying life. Choosing to pay attention to the positive relates to searching for the silver lining in things, and choosing to see the positive in others. Practicing gratitude is a part of cultivating positive emotions as well. For more information on gratitude, see one of our several gratitude posts.
Meaningful relationships. This includes social connectedness, social support, mentorship, doing good for others, and including positive role models in your life. Regarding mentorship, the relationship includes the mentor – which is someone who can provide knowledge and wisdom on various things, and the mentee which is someone who is seeking to grow.
Therapeutic lifestyle choices (TLC’s). TLC’s combine to optimize physical and mental well-being. What are the three biggest TLC’s?…exercise, nutrition, and sleep. Yes, that’s it. Getting some adequate exercise, paying attention to what you eat (you are what you eat), and for adults – getting approximately 7-9 hours of sleep every night. When it comes to nutrition, I’m not suggesting that you never eat ice cream or pizza again. Moderation is key. Other TLC’s include getting out in nature (or anything else that calms the mind), and scheduling time for relaxation (e.g. deep breathing, listening to music, gardening, etc).
The more difficulties and obstacles you face and overcome or conquer, the more resiliency you will naturally develop. Generally, resilient people are able to welcome change and difficulty as an opportunity for self-reflection, learning, and growing.
So go ahead and practice the six aspects above. See if you can work your way to bouncing back from life setbacks or adversity to RESILIENCE! Good luck and let us know how it goes!
If I said I found the secret to a happier and more fulfilling life, and it is an effortless habit, that takes only minutes a day…
Would you be interested in knowing what it is?
Lift your mood
Help you focus your time and energy on the things in your life that you really want to “live with intention“
Not allow you to take things for granted
Lift your spirits; experience joy, even in more difficult times
Have you guessed yet? (here are a few more hints…)
Focus on what is already here, what already surrounds you
Focus on what you can be grateful for in your life
Focus on GRATITUDE EVERYDAY, throughout the day!
That’s right… it is GRATITUDE!
Gratitude fosters happiness, and doesn’t everyone strive for happiness?
To cultivate both gratitude and happiness:
Pause/Breathe: simply pause throughout your day, a brief pause, and ask yourself the question – What or who can I be grateful for today, in my life?
Enjoy the View: look around you throughout your day, and appreciate and acknowledge your surroundings, be grateful for them (the beautiful sunset, the laughing children, the cute puppy, the majestic mountains)
Be Insightful: improve your self-esteem and self-confidence by being appreciative of yourself. Make a habit of identifying things you can be grateful for about yourself each day (you helped someone out, you made a good decision, you met a goal, your sense of humour was spot on today)
The Little Things: look for the small daily things you can appreciate, the things you may take for granted (your lunch, your dog welcoming you home each day, your car getting you to work each morning, the pen that allows you to write your thoughts/lists)
Timing is Everything: You will learn to recognize and acknowledge gratitude all the time, before you know it! But until then, it helps to set aside 1 minute in the morning each day or 1-2 minutes in the evening, before bed, and use a journal or Gratitude Box
Yell It From the Rooftops: You can’t keep all of this gratitude bottled up inside! You need to express it! You are grateful for all that surrounds you and you are happier, so let others know you are grateful for having them in your life – make them happy as well!
So there you have it! The secret to a happier and more fulfilling life:
Happiness isn’t about finding something new, it is about focusing on what is already here, and appreciating it, being thankful for it.
Gratitude turns what you already have into enough.
You can always choose to be grateful, which in turn, means you can always choose to be happy. Think about it…
With overwhelming gratitude for my multitude of simple life blessings, and in happiness,
Attitude is contagious, is yours worth catching? Consider this – your attitude towards anything can work with you towards your goals and dreams, and can lead you to accomplish things you didn’t think were possible. OR conversely, your attitude can work against you and limit your potential, which keeps you in a spiral of negative attitude.
It’s also contagious in that your attitude affects others – whether it’s family, friends, or co-workers. If your positive attitude today makes one person smile then isn’t it worth it? I think so. Remember that you may only be one person to the world, but to one person you may be the world.
So which one do you choose? Yes, it is a choice! If you want to live your best life, it’s an easy choice. Choose a positive attitude.
New Years’ Resolutions have a reputation for setting you up for failure more often than not… When I did a Bing internet search for “failure+New+Years+resolutions” it returned 18,000,000 results! Can being grateful everyday have the same failed outcome?
There is a difference between setting a goal (resolution) just because the earth will begin another rotation around the sun, and your calendar starts on page one… and practicing gratitude everyday because, “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Eckhart Tolle
If your goals for the New Year were the most common New Years’ Resolutions, for example:
to help others, be more generous and kind
live a healthier, more fit lifestyle, lose weight
pay off debt
get better grades in school
quit smoking, quit drinking
Gratitude would help you to achieve these and more.
Gratitude, according to the “What Good Is Gratitude?”(infographic) makes us:
more community minded
make more money
have stronger relationships/friendships
perform better academically
make better choices, regarding addiction
Do New Years Resolutions provide these benefits?Can you achieve Resolutions successfully without gratitude? No.
So, let’s then begin to refer to resolutions and Gratitutions and provide a frame of success and encouragement to achievement of goals each year!
As each New Year begins, how do you recognize it if you are celebrating the things you are grateful for from the previous year, and then creating an action plan for gratitude for the New Year? If you aren’t setting new goals, as some choose to do, many unsuccessfully, with resolutions, on January 1st, what will you do instead?
On New Years Eve or New Years Day gather with your family and/or friends and create Gratitude Jars.
Once a day, several times a week, once a week (on a Sunday, perhaps)… you decide… write what you are grateful for and place it in your jar. The following New Years Eve or Day, gather together and read all of the things you were grateful for throughout the year. Then , start your jars again the next year with a celebration of gratitude, and continue to practice GRATITUTIONS!
Similar to the Gratitude Jar, just a different format… It’s a book instead of a jar!
You can write in a Gratitude Journal every day or once a week. You can list three things you are grateful for, or you can write a story. This is your journal. Again, just as you do with the Gratitude Jar, celebrate GRATITUTIONS on New Years Eve or Day with family and/or friends, each year!
Be creative and create your own!!!
So what is the benefit of Gratitutions versus Resolutions?
New Years Resolutions focus on what you do not have, what you have not yet accomplished, failures… each New Year.
New Years Gratitutions focus on what you already have, what you are grateful for from the previous year, and how you can continue to build on that successfully and positively to achieve new goals each New Year.
Which one do you choose to ring in the New Year with this year? I know which one I’m choosing… the soon-to-be-famous, GRATITUTIONS!
Wishing you a joyous 2016 and a New Year filled with an abundance of gratitude!
This New Years, instead of making “resolutions“, why not change it up and make “GRATITUTIONS“?
What are gratitutions, you ask? Well, first of all, let’s be honest, I made up the word… but it will soon be famous, I’m sure of it!
New Years Gratitutions are a soon-to-be tradition. You reflect on the things you are grateful for from the past year, and create an action plan for gratitude for the New Year; rather than setting new goals, referred to as resolutions. Why, you ask?
Gratitude makes sense of your past, provides peace for the present and creates a vision for tomorrow
Gratitude allows you to reach more goals, because your outlook changes and opportunities seem to open up everywhere
Gratitude teaches you to appreciate the sunshine and the rainstorms, all of the ups and downs in life
You can always choose to be grateful
Gratitude turns what you have into enough and more
The thing to understand about Gratitutions versus Resolutions is this:
According to John Norcross (Journal of Clinical Psychology), approximately 50% of the population makes resolutions each New Year. Some of the most popular resolutions are: quitting smoking, weight loss, exercise, better money management and debt reduction.
“Cultural Procrastination”, an effort to reinvent oneself; this is TimothyPychyl‘s definition of resolutions. As a Carleton University psychology professor, he believes that although people make resolutions as a way of motivating themselves, they aren’t usually ready to change their habits. Thus the high failure rate of resolutions.
I believe unrealistic goals and expectations are another contributing factor. Discouragement from goals not being met as easily or quickly as anticipated can lead to old behaviours returning.
To change a behaviour, you have to change your thinking!
Gratitutions allow you to see only the positive by being grateful for things, big and small, hourly, daily, weekly…. If your mind is focused on the positive, and the abundance that surrounds you, it is much easier to achieve a goal!
Resolutions on the other hand, focus on the opposite, what you do not have, what you need, what you have not yet accomplished, what you lack, … this is discouraging and not conducive patterning to change behaviours over the long-term. Hence, New Years resolutions are famously known to fail.
Focus your thinking on successes and how you can continue to improve upon them, such as with my proposed, Gratitutions. In order to create new behaviours and thought patterns, you must create new neural pathways in your brain to change habits and behaviours; do this in a way that allows you to be positive, present, and mindful. Do not live in the past (except to build upon positive experiences for which you are grateful) or future. Be aware of your physical, mental and emotional present state, and pause and be grateful for it. Use gratitude as your encourager, and you can achieve anything!
Part II, New Years GRATITUTIONS, will delve further into the failure of New Years Resolutions, the benefits of Gratitude, and concrete strategies to embrace New Years Gratitutions! I will post it in a couple of days 🙂
Be kind to yourself, practice gratitude, check back before the New Year for Part II!