Endless… the Benefits of Gratitude!

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How can being more grateful benefit you?

  • it brings you HAPPINESS, despite your circumstances
  • boosts feelings of optimism, joy, pleasure, enthusiasm and others
  • reduces anxiety and depression (clinical studies prove this)
  • helps you to reach more goals
  • encourages deeper sleep, more energy and improved health
  • allows us to see outside ourselves and support others
  • increases our likability
  • more intense and passionate love life

I will put a personal spin on this! I believe that I have always appreciated the life I have, and the goodness and love and benefits I was provided throughout childhood, my youth and early adulthood.  However, it wasn’t until I was presented with more evident struggles, that I really became familiar with the benefits of gratitude, and how gratitude alone can keep your head above water some days.

My late husband fought the demons of severe Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, which progressed to Borderline Personality Disorder before he took his own life; and although he loved our daughters and I, those demons affected all of us.

Our youngest daughter, internationally adopted at age 3, also fights her own demons.  She suffers from severe mental illness as well, due to horrific early childhood trauma. She has psychopathic/sociopathic tendencies, Reactive Attachment Disorder and Complex PTSD.

To say our household was stressful for many years, is an understatement.

Gratitude, which I encourage in our girls as well, provided resilience, happiness for us and a sense of stability that could not have existed otherwise.  It benefited us, particularly myself, as I was old enough to understand it, emotionally/socially/physically.

Emotionally, it allowed me to be more resilient, more relaxed, hold onto happy memories, have more positive feelings than negative ones.

Socially, it made me less self-centered, less materialistic, more optimistic, increased my self-esteem, helped me to achieve goals, be kinder, strengthened relationships, promoted forgiveness, made me more helpful, altruistic, compassionate and empathetic, .

Physically, I had increased energy, I was more motivated to exercise, had improved sleep, and was less sick.  Gratitude studies have shown that it strengthens the immune system, lowers the blood pressure, reduces symptoms of illness,…

What does Krista mean by gratitude??? Is this what you are asking right now?

How can this word, gratitude, provide stability in the midst of a storm?

How can it provide all of these benefits and so much more?

Gratitude is simply appreciating the little things (and sometimes the big things)!   It is not looking for extraordinary things and celebrating grand events, holidays, vacations, parties, accomplishments and trying to hold onto those memories.

Brene Brown said it best,

“I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness – it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”

What are some of the little things we can be grateful for?

  • a smell
  • a colour
  • the ocean waves crashing on the shore
  • a childs laugh
  • your favourite meal or dessert
  • time with a friend or loved one
  • time for your favourite activity
  • a smile from a stranger
  • a beautiful bird flying by
  • food in your fridge
  • your home
  • your family

What if you noticed things like these, 3 times a day?

Really noticed them…

Now 10 times a day?

Breathe them in…

Now 25 times a day?

They always bring a spark of joy to you…

“Give thanks for a little and you will find a lot”

-Hausa Proverb

Recognize that there is joy everywhere and do not allow pain and adversity to overshadow it.

What if you always stopped to pet that dog, smell that flower, listen to your favourite song?  What if you always did that, for you?  Would you not feel happier and more resilient to the things that are not as appealing?

I don’t know the things that make you happy…  Think about them.  Really think… even make a list if that helps to get you started.

I, personally love dogs, textures, food smells, food, coffee, kids, babies, people, laughing, smiling, bright colours, oceans, sunshine, turtles, all animals (except jungle cats, I’m not a huge fan as they prey on some of my favourite animals), artwork, architecture, books, I could go on and on.

I always try to take the time to appreciate my passions, the things that make me happy, and to be grateful for them.

Now, consider this… being grateful doesn’t just benefit you.

If you stop to pet a dog, interact playfully with a baby, smile at a stranger, appreciate an artists’ piece of art… you are also filling their bucket with gratitude and thus joy and happiness.

The benefits of gratitude are simply endless!

Grateful for my walk, hand-in-hand with my true love along the ocean today,

Krista

Gratitude is a Choice… I’ve Made It, Have You?

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Do you find yourself in what feels like an uncontrollable downward spiral of misfortune, bad luck, resentment, failing relationships, emotional instability, pessimism, decreased self-esteem, or decreased energy?

Do you feel like things don’t usually go your way?

Do you frequently question how others can be so lucky?

Do you resent them for their good fortune?

Do you want to improve your physical health or reduce anxiety/depression through exercise or a better sleep routine?

Do you want to achieve a goal or increase your productivity?

Do you want to strengthen your relationships?

Even if you only answered yes to one of these, you can benefit from increased gratitude.

Gratitude opens the door to an abundant life! It turns what we already have into enough and more.

Over the past decade, researchers have really begun to delve into studying the benefits of gratitude.  These studies have documented the social, physical and psychological benefits, and these benefits are within reach to most anyone who practices gratitude, despite adversity.

To begin practicing gratitude, is a choice.

To make any change in your life is a choice.

Are you ready to practice gratitude? Are you ready to make this change? Then make the choice…choose to practice gratitude.

Unlock the fullness in your life and allow gratitude to create clarity for today and a vision for tomorrow. Gratitude allows you to see the positive through the negative, the calm through the chaos.

Begin to find emotional balance and happiness by simply acknowledging:

I am grateful for…

Choose to see what you already have as enough.

Open the door to YOUR abundant life!

 

Grateful for time to write about gratitude, as I sip apple cider in a cafe with my true love,

Krista

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Embracing Life Every Day

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As I sit here having breakfast in southern Texas, y’all, I look out of a restaurant window and can see snippets of the ocean. As wonderful as this is, you know what I found more exciting? You guessed it – one of my fave songs from the 80’s (I have many) appeared on the radio station – Heaven by Warrant. Isn’t it interesting and wonderful how joyous moments can appear anywhere you are? We’ll get back to this thought in a moment.

As human beings we have the ability to make a conscious choice to embrace life. It’s almost magical how fear, anxiety, anger, etc seem to diminish when you are “in  the moment”. Now, embracing life can mean different things to different people. I don’t suspect hearing Warrant on the radio is an absolute joy for many of you as it is for me and I’m ok with that. I’m me and you’re you. More on this shortly.

Embracing life is really about showing up for life, accepting life as it is (suspending your judgment), learning from your mistakes, and then making better choices every day because you learned from your mistakes…right!?!

Keep in mind that better hourly and daily choices often involve:

  • opening your heart424441_10151345454700648_1452729985_n
  • taking a few deep breaths
  • taking the “high road” whenever life challenges you
  • and most importantly accepting who you are! You are beautiful…YES YOU!

Embracing life has many different facets. This blog has covers several different areas of life that we will fully explore in the near future. Krista and I plan on taking you along on a wonderful journey as we explore and hack life. Please stay tuned for more exciting content!

If you have anything to add to this or any general questions on embracing life we would love to hear from you. We are all in this together.

Embracing life as best I can,

Kevin

 

 

What Good is Gratitude?

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Gratitude: It’s a National Holiday… Check Your Calendar!

In North America, we recently celebrated Canadian Thanksgiving, Remembrance Day, Veterans’ Day, and now American Thanksgiving is just around the bend.  What do all of these celebrations have in common?  We express “GRATITUDE”.

On Thanksgiving, it is customary, to gather with family and friends and give thanks traditionally for the harvest of the preceding year and the many wonderful blessings and benefits we enjoy.

Remembrance Day and Veterans’ Day, both on November 11th each year, are memorial days observed since the end of the First World War to remember and honour the members of the armed forces who sacrificed their lives, and died in the line of duty.

GRATITUDE… One upcoming and three recent national holidays, on the North American calendar, that make us pause, take time out from weekly and daily routines, to remember and be grateful.

Do you take the time to acknowledge gratitude in your daily life when it isn’t on the calendar? Do you discuss thankfulness around the dinner table with family and friends more than once or twice a year? Think about it… how often do you reflect on the meaning of gratitude in your life?

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Have you ever wondered how important gratitude is to your happiness, well-being, your growth as an individual? Can anything new truly come into your life if you are not grateful for what you already have?

Henry David Thoreau may have said it best:

“I am grateful for what I am and have. My thanksgiving is perpetual.” 

‘Perpetual’… Thoreau’s gratitude occurs repeatedly; it is continual, neverending, sustained, relentless.

Gratitude can change your view of the world! It is that powerful! Gratitude can change negativity to positivity, sadness to joy, scarcity to abundance, and so much more. If we are simply grateful for who we are, and what we have, not only can it turn what we already have, into enough; but, it can also attract more good things to come our way.

Count your blessings.

Allow yourself to enjoy those blessings.

Set aside your complaints and be grateful for what you do have.

Stop looking for what is missing.

Life isn’t about always having everything you want… Want what you already have.  And be grateful for it. Always.

Remember, the things that you take for granted, someone else is longing for.

Be GRATEFUL everyday, not only when gratitude is on the calendar.         You WILL see positive change.

“Gratitude can transform common days into Thanksgivings;

Turn routine jobs into joy;

And change ordinary opportunities into blessings.”

-William Arthur Ward

With Heartfelt Gratitude,

Krista

You aren’t lost…

 

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Life isn’t about finding yourself.

Life is about creating yourself.

-George Bernard Shaw

You can stop searching, you aren’t lost!

Start to look within, to reach your goals and realize your dreams!

You have everything you need to create the life you dream of.